Be
positive
Sometimes
you
can
go in
all
positive
in a
first
meeting.
Sometimes
it
may
not
be
the
best
approach
to go
in
too
positive
as it
can
be
seen
as
bit
abrasive
or
inappropriate.
A
better
way
to
convey
a
positive
attitude
in a
first
meeting
can
then
be to
read
the
mood
of
person(s)
before
you
start
talking
– by
just
watching
them
- and
then
match
it
for a
short
while.
Then
-
when
you
have
an
emotional
connection
and
the
other
person
feels
you
are
similar
to
him/her
- you
can
let
your
positivity
arise
a bit
more.
Regardless
if
you
start
out
positive
from
the
get-go
or a
short,
short
while
into
the
meeting,
be
sure
to
positive.
If
you,
for
instance,
start
a
first
meeting
by
complaining,
there´s
a big
chance
the
people
you
meet
will
mentally
label
you
as a
complainer
or a
negative
person.
Don’t
think
too
much
Try,
as
much
as
possible,
to
stay
outside
of
your
head
and
focus
on
the
people
you
are
talking
to
rather
than
focusing
on
yourself.
Mentally
rehearse
before
you
even
enter
the
room
Visualize
how
great
the
events
will
unfold
- see
and
hear
it -
and
also
how
great
will
you
feel
at
this
meeting.
See
yourself
smiling,
being
positive,
open
and
having
a
great
time.
See
the
excellent
outcome
in
your
mind.
Then
release
by
visualizing
that
it
has
already
happened,
that
the
meeting
is
over
with
the
desired
result.
This
is
surprisingly
effective
and
will
get
you
into
a
great
and
relaxed
mood
before
even
stepping
into
the
first,
second
or
twentieth
meeting.
You
may
also
want
to
check
out
the
ever-popular
Do
you
make
these
10
mistakes
in
conversation?
for
more
information
on
stuff
like
listening,
hogging
the
spot-light,
what
to
talk
about
(and
not
to
talk
about)
and
the
very
common
need
to be
right.
What
you
say
isn´t
that
important
I´d
say
that
mental
rehearsal
followed
by
acting
as if
you´re
meeting
a
friend
are
the
most
important
parts
of
all
of
this.
They
often
solve
the
rest
of
pointers
in
this
article
unconsciously
and
automatically
and
keeps
your
thoughts
focused
outwards
instead
of
inwards.
The
problem
with
an
inward-focused
meeting
-
where
you
focus
on
what
you
just
said,
how
you
look
and
what
the
other
person
thinks
of
you
right
now -
can
reduce
anyone
to a
bumbling,
second-guessing,
fidgeting
shadow
of
their
former
self
as
the
self-consciousness
becomes
almost
paralyzing.
Also,
as
long
as
you
try
to
use
the
first
and
the
last
point
it
doesn’t
really
matter
too
much
what
word
or
phrase
you
use
to
start
the
conversation.
The
words
are
only
7
percent
of
your
communication.
93
percent
is in
your
tone
of
voice
and
your
body-language.
So, a
simple
“Hi!”
may
do
just
fine.
